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Find a Partner, the Evidence Way

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What research says about meeting people now: why your checklist misleads, how endless swiping backfires, who should pick your photos, how to message, date and follow up, how to spot a romance scam, and how to end things kindly.

2h 56m5 constellations
AT THE SUMMIT, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO

01Use more routes and fewer filters: the way attraction actually works

02Write profiles and messages that start real conversations

03Plan first dates, follow up clearly and end things kindly

04Spot a romance scam before any money moves

Every lesson of Find a Partner, the Evidence Way

15 lessons in 5 levels, about 3 hours. Level 1 is free.

Level 1How People Meet NowFree · 3 lessons
  1. How couples meet nowKnow how meeting has changed, and use more than one route.11 min
  2. Your checklist doesn't know youSee why stated preferences predict real attraction poorly, and filter less.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: the rejection mind-setKnow how endless browsing makes people more rejecting, and set limits.12 min
Level 2Profiles and MessagesMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Let someone else pick your photoChoose profile photos the way the evidence suggests, with other people's eyes.11 min
  2. First messages that start conversationsWrite openers and replies that invite real conversation.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: they liked you more than you thinkCorrect the liking gap, and suggest meeting sooner.12 min
Level 3First Dates That WorkMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Give it more than one meetingKnow how attraction grows with interaction, and plan first dates accordingly.11 min
  2. Questions that build closenessUse gradual, mutual self-disclosure (and new experiences) to get closer.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: asking for a second dateAsk clearly, accept any answer gracefully.12 min
Level 4Stay SafeMembership · 3 lessons
  1. How romance scams workRecognize the romance-scam script before any money moves.11 min
  2. What to do if it smells wrongKnow the steps when you suspect a scam, including sextortion.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: the package feeSay no to a money request from an online match, and get out.12 min
Level 5Your Dating PlanMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Ending things without ghostingEnd early dating kindly, and see what beliefs go with ghosting.11 min
  2. A dating week you can sustainPlan dating time that fits your life, and doesn't burn you out.12 min
  3. Capstone: your dating planPut routes, profile, messages, dates, safety and endings into one plan.13 min
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Level 1 is open.

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