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Relationships That Last

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Research-based habits for couples and families: everyday connection, fair fights, keeping it alive, life together and kind boundaries.

2h 56m5 constellations
AT THE SUMMIT, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO

01Build daily connection through small bids and rituals

02Fight fair: soft starts, breaks and repair

03Keep a long relationship lively and appreciative

04Share money, work and decisions fairly, and set kind family boundaries

Every lesson of Relationships That Last

15 lessons in 5 levels, about 3 hours. Level 1 is free.

Level 1Everyday ConnectionFree · 3 lessons
  1. Small moments carry the relationshipNotice everyday bids for connection and turn toward them.11 min
  2. How you respond to good newsRespond to a partner's good news in the way that builds closeness.11 min
  3. Checkpoint: rituals of connectionBuild small daily and weekly rituals that keep a couple close.12 min
Level 2Fight FairMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Four patterns that damage relationshipsRecognize criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling, and their antidotes.12 min
  2. Start hard conversations softlyRaise a complaint in a way that invites a solution instead of a defense.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: breaks and repairTake a real break when a fight overheats, and repair afterward.12 min
Level 3Keep It AliveMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Do something new togetherUse shared novel activities to keep a long relationship lively.11 min
  2. Love languages, testedKnow what research found about the five love languages, and what to do instead.11 min
  3. Checkpoint: say the good things out loudMake appreciation specific, frequent and spoken.11 min
Level 4Life TogetherMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Talking about money without a fightHold a calm, regular money conversation as a couple.12 min
  2. Share the load, including the invisible partMeasure how household work is really split, and rebalance it fairly.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: big decisions togetherMake big joint decisions in a way that respects both people.12 min
Level 5Family and Your PlanMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Kind boundaries with familySet a boundary with a parent or relative kindly and clearly.12 min
  2. When to get outside helpRecognize when a relationship needs a professional, and when safety comes first.11 min
  3. Capstone: your relationship planPut your rituals, conflict rules and shared routines on one page.14 min
FREE

Level 1 is open.

Membership opens every other level of this path.

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AFTER THE CORE

Keep going where this path leads.

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