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Disagree Better

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Disagree without losing people: task versus relationship conflict, your bias blind spot, exaggerated beliefs about the other side, listening that lowers defences, asking instead of assuming, speaking to their values, facts that don't backfire, swapping stories, arguing online, workplace conflict, mediation, neighbors and family.

2h 54m5 constellations
AT THE SUMMIT, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO

01Keep disagreements about the work, not the person

02Listen, ask and reframe so people can actually hear you

03Correct facts and change minds without contempt

04Resolve conflict early: at work, with neighbors and at home

Every lesson of Disagree Better

15 lessons in 5 levels, about 3 hours. Level 1 is free.

Level 1Why Disagreements Go WrongFree · 3 lessons
  1. Disagreeing about tasks, fighting about peopleKeep disagreements about the work from becoming personal.12 min
  2. Everyone thinks they're the objective oneCatch the bias blind spot in yourself before you argue.11 min
  3. They don't dislike you as much as you thinkCorrect exaggerated beliefs about what the other side thinks of you.11 min
Level 2Listen and UnderstandMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Listen so they can thinkUse listening to lower defenses: theirs and yours.12 min
  2. Ask before you argueFind out what the other person actually thinks, and why.11 min
  3. Speak to their values, not yoursReframe your case in the values of the person you're talking to.12 min
Level 3Changing Minds Without a FightMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Facts rarely backfireShare corrections with confidence, and without contempt.11 min
  2. Swap stories, not just argumentsUse personal stories to open minds on contentious topics.12 min
  3. Arguing onlineKnow when online disagreement helps, and when to take it offline.11 min
Level 4Conflict at WorkMembership · 3 lessons
  1. What conflict costs at workSee the price of unresolved conflict, and why early action pays.12 min
  2. Raise it early, raise it wellHave the conversation before a conflict hardens.13 min
  3. How mediation worksKnow when to bring in a mediator, and what to expect.11 min
Level 5Neighbors, Family and Your PlaybookMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Neighbor disputesResolve problems with neighbors step by step.12 min
  2. Family, friends and politicsDisagree with people you love without losing them.11 min
  3. Your disagreement playbookPut the whole path into one page you'll actually use.12 min
FREE

Level 1 is open.

Membership opens every other level of this path.

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AFTER THE CORE

Keep going where this path leads.

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