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Grief: What Really Helps

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What grief is really like and what actually helps, for you or someone you love: no script of stages, how to support without clichés, looking after yourself, the practical steps after a death, and when grief needs specialist help. General education, not medical advice.

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AT THE SUMMIT, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO

01Understand grief without the five-stages script

02Support someone with presence and specific help, for months

03Look after yourself and know when to get help

04Handle the practical steps after a death, and recognize prolonged grief

Every lesson of Grief: What Really Helps

15 lessons in 5 levels, about 3 hours. Level 1 is free.

Level 1What Grief Is Really LikeFree · 3 lessons
  1. Grief doesn't follow stagesReplace the five-stages script with what bereaved people actually report.12 min
  2. More resilient than expectedKnow the common paths through grief, and that resilience isn't coldness.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: many feelings, two directionsRecognize grief's range of feelings and its two kinds of work.12 min
Level 2Supporting SomeoneMembership · 3 lessons
  1. What to say, and what to skipSupport a grieving friend in conversation, without scripts or stages.13 min
  2. Practical help that countsOffer specific help with the tasks that pile up after a death.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: stay for the months, not the weekTime your support to when grief is often hardest.12 min
Level 3Looking After YourselfMembership · 3 lessons
  1. Grief is physical tooProtect sleep, food, movement and company while grieving.12 min
  2. Rituals and both kinds of timeMake room for the loss and for the changed life, on purpose.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: when to get helpKnow when grief needs more than time, and how to get help.12 min
Level 4After a Death: Practical StepsMembership · 3 lessons
  1. The first daysKnow the first practical steps after a death in the US, and your rights with a funeral home.12 min
  2. Money, benefits and workKnow which support to check after a death, and how to share the load.12 min
  3. Checkpoint: a list that holds the loadTurn the practical steps into one shared list.12 min
Level 5Carrying It ForwardMembership · 3 lessons
  1. When grief doesn't easeRecognize prolonged grief disorder, and know it's treatable.12 min
  2. Anniversaries and carrying them with youPlan for hard dates, and keep a connection that feels right.12 min
  3. Capstone: your grief planPut support, self-care, practical steps and help on one page.13 min
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